Education and Children in Islam

All praise is due to Allah SWT, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Ninety-three years after Hijrah, the same year that Anas bin Malik rd passed away. A woman in Madinah Munawwarah named Aaliyah bint Shareek gave birth to a baby boy named Malik ibn Anas ibn Malik ibn Abi Amir. This baby like many of his family before him would have bought with him many hopes and dreams of manners and knowledge.

His grandfather Malik ibn Abi Amir RA moved to Madinah Munawwarah from Yemen during the caliphate of Umar bin Khattab RD and was a student of the companions of the Prophet ﷺ. He studied and served with the Khulafa-e-Rashideen and his children and their children all grew up to be scholars of Islam.

However, little Malik growing up was not very religious. He used to spend most of his time playing with pigeons. His ambition was to become a musician and his mother would constantly try to talk him out of it. She would habitually make him wear a turban and would tell him to go and study knowledge. She would tell him to go to Rabee’a, who was the prominent scholar of the time and would tell him to learn his Abad before his Ilm.

Hence, Malik sat with Rabee’a for two years to please his mother but did not benefit from him. He still wanted to pursue his career in the music industry. So even after two years, he did not dedicate himself to knowledge. In a un-scholar like manner, he used to wear earrings. He would practice his singing and as before, he spent a lot of time playing with his pigeons.

One day, his father asked him and his brother An-Nadr a question. His brother answered correctly but Malik made a mistake. In frustration, his father told him that his pigeons have made him too busy to seek knowledge. He got very angry at this remark and decided to dedicate himself to knowledge to prove his father wrong.

Donning on Islamic attire, Malik went to spend seven years with Abdullah ibn Yazid ibn Hurmus, a blind prominent scholar who had been through a lot of hardship and did not mix with anyone else during this time. Then he spent another five years with him and some other scholars.

Today, we know this Malik as Imam Malik RA. The author of the Muwwata-e-Imam Malik, one of the greatest hadith books compiled.

Now before I expand on this story, let me set another scene for you.

This year, May 2018. So many students will have taken their exams and now is the waiting game. The nervous anticipation. The hopes of passing. The prayers to succeed. Many will be eagerly awaiting. Some will be asking the question, have I passed. Did I do enough to succeed? However, at the same, some will be having nervous breakdowns whilst others will be completely relaxed.

This scene is so similar to another that we are yet to experience. Yes! I am talking about that event that every living soul will experience on the day of Judgement. However, I am not talking about you in general. No! Our worry and concern are the children of this Ummah who are the inheritors of the prophets of Allah SWT.

At a young age, we allow our children to do as they wish. Our thinking is that these children are young and should live their youth as they wish. Once they grow up, naturally, they will begin to be more inclined towards Islam. We allow them to do as they wish. From dressing them up according to the latest trends; to watching the latest musicals and playing video games in which modesty and mercy have no place. Why? Because we do not want our child to “miss out” and at the end of the day, everything is completely fine because our children go to madrasah anyway.

However, what happens? These children become teenagers, and what do they wish to do? They wish to listen to the latest hits, they want to dress according to the latest trends, they want the latest games, no matter what is in them and Islam has no place in their hearts. Going to learn about Islam is a burden and they only come to Madrasah because we, as Muslim parents, send them.

Years will pass and then? It is the day of Judgement. Along with everyone else, we will be standing on the plains of Reckoning, awaiting our judgement. Our sons or daughters will be standing in front of Allah SWT and Allah SWT will question our children. “Tell me son or daughter of so and so, why did you not act upon the Qur’an and Sunnah, despite being upon Islam?”

Regarding this day, Allah SWT says in the Glorious Qur’an,

On the Day a man will flee from his brother، and his mother and his father، and his wife and his children. Every man, that Day, will have enough to make him careless of others.
(Abasa: 34-37)

In this state on that day, can anyone of us think that if the carelessness has been on our part, will our children refrain from mentioning it?

I am sure, we have heard the words “The mother’s lap is the first Madrasah”, countless times. However, what do these words mean?

By nature, every believing parent worries about his or her child’s Islamic upbringing. There is always a certain degree of anxiousness when it involves getting the child to carry out an Islamic injunction. Moreover, when the child refuses to act upon it, it is always frustrating.

It is from amongst the children’s rights that their parents begin to encourage them towards Islamic injunctions when they reach the age of seven. Nevertheless, it is never easy to start something new with a seven years old child. By this age, children begin to express their own feelings and thoughts and they wish to know the reason behind every action.

This is why when children start school at the age of four; they are taught how to recognise letters and to read. It is easier for them to learn because they are more open-minded and adventurous. In this way, by the age of seven, they are completely independent and can read by themselves.

It has been narrated on the authority of Ibn ‘Umar (rd) that Rasulullah ﷺ said:

Beware! Every one of you is a shepherd and everyone is answerable with regard to his flock. The Caliph is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his subjects (as to how he conducted their affairs). A man is a guardian over the members of his family and shall be questioned about them (as to how he looked after their physical and moral well-being). A woman is a guardian over the household of her husband and his children and shall be questioned about them (as to how she managed the household and brought up the children). A slave is a guardian over the property of his master and shall be questioned about it (as to how he safeguarded his trust). Beware! Every one of you is a guardian and every one of you shall be questioned with regard to his trust. (Sahih Muslim)

Thus, we come back to our point that the mother’s lap is the first madrasah. Why? Because the mother contributes the bigger share and plays the dominant role in the early training and education of her children.

By any or all means necessary, it is up to the mother to save the children by giving them a good Islamic education. Therefore, to ensure that our children lead a successful life according to the standards set by Islam, we as parents should dutifully train and educate them.

Allah SWT says in the glorious Qur’an,

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and fair preaching, and argue with them with that which is best. Truly, your Lord knows best who has strayed from His path, and He knows best those who are guided.
(An-Nahl: 125)

This verse does not only apply to the person calling others towards Islam but us parents too. As parents, it is our duty to guide with wisdom, affection, patience and steadfastness.

In connection to this Allah SWT says:

O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.
(Tahreem: 6)

Commentating on this verse, the interpreters of the Qur’an have said:

“It is an obligation for the Muslim to teach his near family members, and his male and female slaves what Allah has made obligatory for them and what Allah has forbidden for them.”

A Hadith confirms the meaning of this Ayah. It is recorded in Abu Dawood that Rasulullah ﷺ said,

“Order the children to pray when they reach the age of seven and when they reach the age of ten, discipline them (for not performing it).”

Now going back to the story of Imam Malik RA, Look at the way that Allah SWT works. Unbeknown to him, Allah SWT had great plans for little Imam Malik RA. He may not have wanted to pursue the Religion of Allah but Allah SWT made his mother and father a source of guidance towards his Religion.

Especially his mother, who always encouraged him to study with the Scholars and not only did she encourage him but she also guided him to the person who she thought was the most learnt amongst the Scholars of Madinah Munawwarah. We can only imagine how much worry and concern she must have had for her child that Allah SWT took away from her, her deepest concern. However, to what extent?! Subhanallah!

The Prophet ﷺ said in the Musnad of Imam Ahmad;

“There will come a time where people will strike the thighs of their camels, travelling the world to seek knowledge. (Meaning people will travel all over the world) and they will not find anyone more knowledgeable than the scholar of Madinah.”

By the consensus of many scholars, this Scholar of Madinah refers to Imam Malik RA.

I am sure many of us here will be able to relate to Imam Malik’s RA story. We have all heard of or come across a youth who have unfortunately gone towards the wrong path.

We live in corrupt times, where every corner that we turn, we see either immorality or disgrace and during this time, we have upon us the burden of bringing up pious children who will, Insha Allah, safeguard the Religion of Allah SWT.

Now you may be thinking, it is so much easier said than done and you would be right in thinking that. It is much harder. Not only have times changed but so has the society. We no longer live in a world where the mother’s place is at home and the father is the sole breadwinner of the family. However, if we did not have the willpower to do so, then we would not have been given this blessing in the first place.

The basis of a good Islamic education and good morals starts at home. He who guides to good deeds is like the doer thereof and he who leads to bad deeds is like the doer thereof.

In essence, if parents bring up their children with a good Islamic foundation and the children act upon it, it will be regarded as Sadaqa-e-Jariyyah. On the contrary, if the parents neglected this duty then it will be regarded as Azaab-e-Jariyyah. Meaning that whatever evil the children do, the parents will get continuous punishment for it after their death.

If we impart upon our children a good Islamic education, on growing up they will act upon within the guidance of Islam and will become a good source of education for others, thus Allah SWT will reward us for all their good actions continuously in the hereafter for their efforts.

Rasulullah ﷺ has said,

“When a person dies, all his deeds come to an end except three: sadaqah jaariyah (ongoing charity, e.g. a waqf or endowment), beneficial knowledge (which he has left behind), or a righteous child who will pray for him.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi)

May Allah SWT accept from us and you. Ameen.

All praise is due to Allah SWT at the beginning and at the end.

thekatibahwrites

Resources used;

http://seekershub.org/blog/2011/03/is-the-hadith-the-scholars-are-the-inheritors-of-the-prophets-authentic-if-so-what-does-it-mean-faraz-rabbani

https://quran.com/

 

 

 

 

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Loving the messenger of Allah ﷺ

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Sayyidina Anas (rd) narrates that Rasulullah ﷺ said, “He who loves my Sunnah truly loves me, and the one who loves me will be with me in paradise.” – Sirat, Vol 1, pg. 426

If today someone were to ask us if we love Rasulullah ﷺ, our spontaneous answer will be yes. However, have we once pondered over what truly loving Rasulullah ﷺ means? Is it simply reading about his life’s work? Or learning about his inner character and mannerism? Was every aspect of Rasulullah ﷺ’s life documented and made accessible to us through the ahaadeeth just so that we can skim through it as we do a magazine?

No! Through the companions, Allah ﷻ granted us with the ability to learn about Rasulullah ﷺ so that we may learn to develop that love and grow it. Adherence to the Sunnah is a symbol of true love for Rasulullah ﷺ. Those who claim to be lovers of Rasulullah ﷺ, but do not adhere to the Sunnah are untrue to their claim. A true lover is generally aware of the circumstances and conditions of his beloved and wishes to be like him.

Of course, this does not mean that in learning to follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah ﷺ, we will become exactly like the companions (rd). There is much difference between the companions (rd) and us. The privilege they had was because they were able to do what we could not.

However, Rasulullah ﷺ’s way of life has been made accessible to us through many means so that we can cultivate the type of love that Abu Bakr (rd) had for Rasulullah ﷺ.

After the conquest of Makkah, Abu Bakr (rd) took his father Abu Quhafa (rd) to Rasulullah ﷺ to accept Islam. Abu Bakr (rd) told Rasulullah ﷺ upon entering the tent, “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ, this is my father, he has come to accept Islaam”. Rasulullah ﷺ replied, “Oh Abu Bakr! If you had informed us that it was your father, we would have come to you”. But Abu Bakr (rd) replied, “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! It is not befitting that you come to any one let alone my father”.

Thereafter Abu Bakr (rd) placed his father’s hand into Rasulullah ﷺ’s hand to accept Islaam and began crying. Rasulullah ﷺ realised that Abu Bakr (rd) was crying out of sorrow. He asked, “Oh Abu Bakr! What makes you cry? You should be over joyed that your father is accepting Islaam!! Abu Bakr (rd) replied, “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! Your uncle, Abu Talib, has come to my mind and I swear by Allah ﷻ, the only reason why I am crying is that I would rather have Abu Talib accepting Islam on your hands than my father because I know you will become happier by that. Allah ﷻ will give you a sense of contentment being happy because your uncle strived so much for you but was deprived of Imaan. If he had accepted Islaam, you would’ve been overjoyed by that and so I am crying that if only Allah ﷻ had in place of my father’s Imaan, your uncle would’ve accepted Islam in his place.”

That is the level of affection the companions (rd) had for Rasulullah ﷺ. So much love that they would rather someone closer to Rasulullah ﷺ accept Islaam than their own kin. They would rather their own kin enter the hell-fire in place. Subhanallah! It is so unimaginable that we cannot even put it into prospective.

Allah ﷻ mentions in Surah Ale Imran,

“Say, [O Muhammad], If you love Allah ﷻ, follow me; Allah ﷻ will love you and forgive for you your sins and Allah ﷻ is most forgiving, most merciful.” – 3.31

Hence, we learn from the verse that it is essential for a believer to love Rasulullah ﷺ because gaining the pleasure of Allah ﷻ and loving Rasulullah ﷺ are inseparable.

Then again in Surah Tawbah, Allah ﷻ says,

Say, [O Muhammad ﷺ], “If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your relatives, wealth which you have obtained, commerce wherein you fear decline, and dwellings with which you are pleased, are more beloved to you than Allah ﷻ and His Messenger ﷺ and striving in His cause, then wait until Allah ﷻ executes His command. And Allah ﷻ does not guide the defiantly disobedient people.” -9.24

Looking at verse, we see that Allah ﷻ mentions every subject that a human heart develops love for and then Allah ﷻ says if these things become more beloved to the human heart then we should “wait until Allah ﷻ executes His command”. Many commentators of the Qur’aan say that this refers to Allah ﷻ’s punishment and this can come in many forms of which one is the loss of something we love.

There are certain things that we have natural love for, like our children and there are certain things that we develop love for, like our businesses. However, if the love of these things become greater than the love of Allah ﷻ, His messenger ﷺ and striving in His path, then we should wait for the punishment of Allah ﷻ.

The question arises, when should we wait for the punishment to come? In answer to this, we must first understand the levels of Imaan.

The first is the lesser degree of Imaan in which you have love for something which conflicts with the love of Allah ﷻ and His messenger ﷺ. However, the minute that this begins to effect the rights of Allah ﷻ and His messenger ﷺ, then the punishment of Allah ﷻ which He mentions in His Qur’aan should be expected.

The second degree is the higher level of Imaan in which you aspire to develop your love for Allah ﷻ and His messenger ﷺ to such an extent that it supersedes all the things that the human has no control over loving and it supersedes the thing that the human can grow love for in his heart as well.

The affections that are naturally embedded in the heart, are worked on so much that eventually the love of Allah ﷻ and His messenger ﷺ begin to succeed over everything else.

As mentioned by Rasulullah ﷺ in a hadeeth,

“None of you will have faith until he loves me more than his father, his children and all of mankind.” – Bukhari

This greater love for Allah ﷻ and His messenger ﷺ is not possible without studying the life of Rasulullah ﷺ. If we strive to learn about Rasulullah ﷺ, we will learn that Allah ﷻ moulded him in such perfection that we will fall in love with him and if a study of his ﷺ’s life does not change us, then we should bear in mind that the imperfection is on our part and not his ﷺ.

All praises are due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and May we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Resources used:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4TfGRnKgQzw

https://quran.com/

The Khulasa by Shaikh Muhammad Adb al-Hayy al-Kattani

The sublime conduct of Nabi ﷺ by Mufti Muhammad Irshad Ahmed Qasimi

The sealed Nectar by Saifur-Rahman Al-Mubarakpuri

Seeratul Mustafa ﷺ by Hadhrat Moulana Muhammad Idres Kaandhewi saahib

 

 

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Why do you wish to break me when Allah has created me free?! 

Building a Connection

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Once in Madinah during the time of Rasulullah ﷺ, a companion, Aws bin Samit (rd) became displeased with his wife, Khowla bint Tha’labah (rd) and gave her a talaaq-e-zihaar. This was a type of divorce which was issued in the time of ignorance. The husband would say “You are to me like the back of my mother”. These words likened his relationship with his wife to his relationship with his mother and made his wife forbidden to him forever. Even after marrying another man, the wife would not be able to ever remarry her first husband again.

Khowla bint Tha’labah (rd) was an old woman and no longer at an age to remarry. Any person can imagine how distressed she must have felt and as was the habit of the companions, she ran to Rasulullah ﷺ with her problem.

Rasulullah ﷺ was residing at Aishah’s (rd) house at the time. Khowla (rd) came and said; “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! My husband has given me a talaaq-e-zihaar. What do you command”?

Until this time, Rasulullah ﷺ had not received any revelation related to the matter and so he said; “Oh Khowla! You have become forbidden for him”. This was the ruling according to the customs of the time.

Upon hearing this reply, Khowla (rd) pleaded; “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! He spent my wealth, exhausted my youth and my womb bore abundantly for him. When I became old and unable to bear children, he pronounced zihaar on me. Where shall I go and how will my children do their living?”

But once again Rasulullah ﷺ replied; “Oh Khowla! You have become forbidden for him.” She pleaded again; “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! Please review your answer”. But Rasulullah ﷺ realised that Khowla (rd) was not going to listen so he bowed his head and did not reply.

Khowla (rd) saw this and so she said; “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! I will complain directly to your lord”! She raised her hands to the heavens and she spoke quietly to Allah ﷻ; “Oh Allah! I bring my complaint directly to you. I have small children. I do not have the strength or money to feed them. Nor can I rely on their father as he has also become old. Oh Allah! Send a decision in my favour on your prophet’s tongue”. Suddenly the signs of revelation being revealed were noted on Rasulullah ﷺ and once he was relieved, he smiled; “Oh Khowla! Allah has revealed in regards to you and your husband.

Allah ﷻ revealed;

Indeed Allah has heard the talk of the woman who was debating with you concerning her husband and was complaining to Allah. And Allah was hearing the conversation between you both. Verily, Allah is All-Hearing, All-Seeing.

(Surah Mujadalah, verse 1)

Subhanallah! The connection that Khowla (rd) had with Allah ﷻ speaks directly to my soul. Just try to imagine yourself in the presence of Rasulullah ﷺ. How fortunate would that person be! No person would even think of asking anyone else for confirmation of what was said. Yet here was Khowla (rd). She was a woman and she was old. But her connection with Allah ﷻ was so strong that when she realised that Rasulullah ﷺ was not going to listen to her, she turned to Allah ﷺ. Not because she did not believe in Rasulullah ﷺ. But because she knew that Allah ﷻ answered the prayer of the person in distress.

In Surah Ghafir, Allah ﷻ says;

And your Lord says, “Call upon Me; I will respond to you.”

But when will Allah ﷻ respond?

He will “respond” when you believe in Him. When your conviction in Him is so strong that be it in a time of need or not, you know that Allah ﷻ is there for you. When you believe without a doubt, that He is forever present.

Take a look at Khowla (rd). What did she do that made her so special, that Allah ﷻ revealed the Qur’aan to Rasulullah ﷺ in response to her call. The only thing that she did was ask Allah ﷻ to reveal a ruling in her favour with conviction in her heart.

Khowla (rd) spoke to Allah ﷻ. She prolonged her call. She beautified her speech like she was talking to her lover. She did not just simply say “Oh Allah! Give me this!” She knew that Allah ﷻ knew. But she was pleading her case in the court of Allah ﷻ and in response, Allah ﷻ revealed the Qur’aan. How truly amazing is that! Khowla (rd) made one plea to Allah ﷻ. Just one plea!

In a narration, Aishah (rd) says; “Pure is He, whose hearing encompasses all things. I heard what Khowla bint Tha’labah said about her husband while some of it I could not hear despite being so close to her in the same room, but Allah ﷻ heard her all her conversation and said; “Indeed, Allah has heard…”

Subhanallah! Allah ﷻ is All-Hearing, All-seeing. Allah ﷻ truly is the one who hears your plea, who hears your cry for help. He really is the only one who will not break your heart. When you call Him lovingly, when you call to Him in distress, when you talk to Him like there is no one else that you love more than Him, He will answer your call. And if you feel that Allah ﷻ has not answered your call, don’t feel disheartened. Just think that Allah ﷻ wants you to talk to Him for longer. Don’t demand from Allah ﷻ. He is not the one who is in need of us. Talk to Him! Plead with Him. Beg Him. Cry to Allah ﷻ. Plant your seed of hope in your prayers and see the miracles that grow in your life!

The key point to this lesson is we have to build a connection with Allah ﷻ if we want him to respond to our call and there is no better time to do this than in the month of Ramadhaan.

In a hadeeth, Rasulullah ﷺ says;

“When Ramadhaan begins, the gates of Paradise are opened, and the gates of Hell are closed, and the devils are chained up.”

(al-Bukhaari, 3277; Muslim, 1079)

Here is a golden opportunity. We have to take advantage of it. We have to build a connection with Allah ﷻ today. We cannot wait for tomorrow. Who has been promised the next minute, let alone tomorrow? We cannot wait around for next Ramadhaan. Who knows whether we will even see next Ramadhaan? There is only about a week left of Ramadhaan. How many of us can say that we have truly connected with Allah ﷻ in this month? How many of us can say that without a doubt we will not turn back to our old ways because our connection with Allah ﷻ is stronger than before?

Build a connection with Allah ﷻ before it’s too late. No one needs to know how you’re building your connection. That is between you and Allah ﷻ. All you need to remember is that it does not have to be something great. Start small. Give charity. Recite the Qur’aan more often. Stand up for the night pray. Anything. Just as long as you are doing something.

I know that this is easier said than done. We face obstacles in our path in the form of our own wishes and desires. We all have our ups and downs. But that’s ok. That’s life. We’re bound to have a bumpy ride. But as long as we are trying to connect with Allah ﷻ, we will Insha Allah be getting somewhere.

A wise person once said;

“The path to Allah ﷻ is long. It is not important that you reach the end. What is important is that you are on this path when you die.”

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting and May we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Resources used:

Ma’riful Quran
Tafseer Ibn Katheer

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The gate of my heart

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A soul so lost, even the hearts become cold. Those of you who understand will understand. Those of you that don’t, it’s something which is hard to explain. It’s a bit like being disconnected from wifi. Except a million times worse.

May we all find our way back to Allah. Allahumma aslih quloobana. Ameen.

The Katibah.

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7 steps in Shaban for Ramadhan

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Burn the bad deeds!

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