When the shooting star passed by…

All praise is due to Allah swt, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and Messenger, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

A curtain moved and the prophet ﷺ looked through.

Satisfaction smiled on his face and he went away.

Little time passed by,
An angel knocked on the door.
Permission was enquired “Peace be upon you! May I take your soul?”
The reply came “What of my people? Go ask my Lord!”
An oath was made and his soul was taken away…

Stillness fell…

Deafening silence was heard.

Despite the sun, anguish rained.

Darkness clouded the mind.

Thunder struck at the heart and emptiness was claimed.

The tunnel was blocked and no light came through.

A source of guidance was taken away!

Anger reared its head, but fear reigned above all.

Sadness filled the air.

Sorrow seeped through and grief walled in.

Mourning in shock, no tear fell.

Then prayer time came and wailing teared the companions apart.

Souls crushed…

Senses lost…

Tortured, yet their conviction persevered.

Years passed and times changed,
But to Muhammad’s memory, faithfulness they attained.

Mesmerised in the stories they told,
But emotional at how it unfold.

Tears flowed and misery attacked.

Though heartache was sustained,
In their thoughts, his promise remained.
You will (surely) be with those whom you love. (Aw kama qaal ﷺ)

SALLALLAHU ALAYHI WASALLAM

All praise is due to Allah swt at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and May we all benefit. Ameen

The Katibah.

Building a Connection

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Once in Madinah during the time of Rasulullah ﷺ, a companion, Aws bin Samit (rd) became displeased with his wife, Khowla bint Tha’labah (rd) and gave her a talaaq-e-zihaar. This was a type of divorce which was issued in the time of ignorance. The husband would say “You are to me like the back of my mother”. These words likened his relationship with his wife to his relationship with his mother and made his wife forbidden to him forever. Even after marrying another man, the wife would not be able to ever remarry her first husband again.

Khowla bint Tha’labah (rd) was an old woman and no longer at an age to remarry. Any person can imagine how distressed she must have felt and as was the habit of the companions, she ran to Rasulullah ﷺ with her problem.

Rasulullah ﷺ was residing at Aishah’s (rd) house at the time. Khowla (rd) came and said; “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! My husband has given me a talaaq-e-zihaar. What do you command”?

Until this time, Rasulullah ﷺ had not received any revelation related to the matter and so he said; “Oh Khowla! You have become forbidden for him”. This was the ruling according to the customs of the time.

Upon hearing this reply, Khowla (rd) pleaded; “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! He spent my wealth, exhausted my youth and my womb bore abundantly for him. When I became old and unable to bear children, he pronounced zihaar on me. Where shall I go and how will my children do their living?”

But once again Rasulullah ﷺ replied; “Oh Khowla! You have become forbidden for him.” She pleaded again; “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! Please review your answer”. But Rasulullah ﷺ realised that Khowla (rd) was not going to listen so he bowed his head and did not reply.

Khowla (rd) saw this and so she said; “Oh Rasulullah ﷺ! I will complain directly to your lord”! She raised her hands to the heavens and she spoke quietly to Allah ﷻ; “Oh Allah! I bring my complaint directly to you. I have small children. I do not have the strength or money to feed them. Nor can I rely on their father as he has also become old. Oh Allah! Send a decision in my favour on your prophet’s tongue”. Suddenly the signs of revelation being revealed were noted on Rasulullah ﷺ and once he was relieved, he smiled; “Oh Khowla! Allah has revealed in regards to you and your husband.

Allah ﷻ revealed;

Indeed Allah has heard the talk of the woman who was debating with you concerning her husband and was complaining to Allah. And Allah was hearing the conversation between you both. Verily, Allah is All-Hearing, All-Seeing.

(Surah Mujadalah, verse 1)

Subhanallah! The connection that Khowla (rd) had with Allah ﷻ speaks directly to my soul. Just try to imagine yourself in the presence of Rasulullah ﷺ. How fortunate would that person be! No person would even think of asking anyone else for confirmation of what was said. Yet here was Khowla (rd). She was a woman and she was old. But her connection with Allah ﷻ was so strong that when she realised that Rasulullah ﷺ was not going to listen to her, she turned to Allah ﷺ. Not because she did not believe in Rasulullah ﷺ. But because she knew that Allah ﷻ answered the prayer of the person in distress.

In Surah Ghafir, Allah ﷻ says;

And your Lord says, “Call upon Me; I will respond to you.”

But when will Allah ﷻ respond?

He will “respond” when you believe in Him. When your conviction in Him is so strong that be it in a time of need or not, you know that Allah ﷻ is there for you. When you believe without a doubt, that He is forever present.

Take a look at Khowla (rd). What did she do that made her so special, that Allah ﷻ revealed the Qur’aan to Rasulullah ﷺ in response to her call. The only thing that she did was ask Allah ﷻ to reveal a ruling in her favour with conviction in her heart.

Khowla (rd) spoke to Allah ﷻ. She prolonged her call. She beautified her speech like she was talking to her lover. She did not just simply say “Oh Allah! Give me this!” She knew that Allah ﷻ knew. But she was pleading her case in the court of Allah ﷻ and in response, Allah ﷻ revealed the Qur’aan. How truly amazing is that! Khowla (rd) made one plea to Allah ﷻ. Just one plea!

In a narration, Aishah (rd) says; “Pure is He, whose hearing encompasses all things. I heard what Khowla bint Tha’labah said about her husband while some of it I could not hear despite being so close to her in the same room, but Allah ﷻ heard her all her conversation and said; “Indeed, Allah has heard…”

Subhanallah! Allah ﷻ is All-Hearing, All-seeing. Allah ﷻ truly is the one who hears your plea, who hears your cry for help. He really is the only one who will not break your heart. When you call Him lovingly, when you call to Him in distress, when you talk to Him like there is no one else that you love more than Him, He will answer your call. And if you feel that Allah ﷻ has not answered your call, don’t feel disheartened. Just think that Allah ﷻ wants you to talk to Him for longer. Don’t demand from Allah ﷻ. He is not the one who is in need of us. Talk to Him! Plead with Him. Beg Him. Cry to Allah ﷻ. Plant your seed of hope in your prayers and see the miracles that grow in your life!

The key point to this lesson is we have to build a connection with Allah ﷻ if we want him to respond to our call and there is no better time to do this than in the month of Ramadhaan.

In a hadeeth, Rasulullah ﷺ says;

“When Ramadhaan begins, the gates of Paradise are opened, and the gates of Hell are closed, and the devils are chained up.”

(al-Bukhaari, 3277; Muslim, 1079)

Here is a golden opportunity. We have to take advantage of it. We have to build a connection with Allah ﷻ today. We cannot wait for tomorrow. Who has been promised the next minute, let alone tomorrow? We cannot wait around for next Ramadhaan. Who knows whether we will even see next Ramadhaan? There is only about a week left of Ramadhaan. How many of us can say that we have truly connected with Allah ﷻ in this month? How many of us can say that without a doubt we will not turn back to our old ways because our connection with Allah ﷻ is stronger than before?

Build a connection with Allah ﷻ before it’s too late. No one needs to know how you’re building your connection. That is between you and Allah ﷻ. All you need to remember is that it does not have to be something great. Start small. Give charity. Recite the Qur’aan more often. Stand up for the night pray. Anything. Just as long as you are doing something.

I know that this is easier said than done. We face obstacles in our path in the form of our own wishes and desires. We all have our ups and downs. But that’s ok. That’s life. We’re bound to have a bumpy ride. But as long as we are trying to connect with Allah ﷻ, we will Insha Allah be getting somewhere.

A wise person once said;

“The path to Allah ﷻ is long. It is not important that you reach the end. What is important is that you are on this path when you die.”

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting and May we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Resources used:

Ma’riful Quran
Tafseer Ibn Katheer

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7 steps in Shaban for Ramadhan

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To be accepted by Allah ﷻ

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Subhanallah! I came across this today and had to share. Bought tears to my eyes. May Allah ﷻ accept all of us. Ameen.

HAVE HOPE IN THE MERCY OF ALLAH ﷻ – never stop praying – My Story.

My 67 year old father spent his life as a British non-Muslim. He sadly passed away in January 2016 from Cancer. Alhamdulillah I, his only child, was shown the light of Islam, the Haqq, 12 years ago. Sometime ago, when he was told by medics that nothing further could be done, I felt the huge need to speak to him about deen, praying that Allah ﷻ would open his heart. I had always included my parents in my duas – imagine how hard it is for us reverts to know those who raised and nurtured us are devoid from the peace and tranquillity that Islam instils in us – and that they may be excluded from the wonders we are told await us in Jannah (should we attain it, through Allah ﷻ’s blessings alone).

I asked Allah ﷻ for the courage to approach the topic, aware of dad expressing he didn’t even want to think or talk about death. He was a closed book and very private. I asked Allah ﷻ to give me the appropriate words and remove any impediment from my speech, to help me through good character to show him Islam is not the harsh, oppressive and militant faith as wrongly seen by many non-Muslims.  We talked – he listened openly. I told dad I’ll return back to the conversation when ‘his time comes’ and he agreed. Dad had broadly Christian beliefs although not practising, he believed in One God.

I received a call from the hospital in Manchester some months later saying dad had been admitted and not expected to last the night. It was expected, he’d lost his appetite, was sleeping a lot and in acute pain – also suffering from other undignified issues symptomatic of his illness.

I made 2 rakat and rushed alone to the hospital, praying I was afforded the opportunity to speak to him one last time. Partially for selfish reasons – how could I live with myself thereafter if I had ‘bottled it’ – losing my nerve and final opportunity to invite Dad to become Muslim.

Alhumdulillah I made it and had to ask relatives and doctors for five minutes privacy with him.  I was frightened everyone would think it highly unethical to put pressure on a dying man, but I had to pray and trust in Allah ﷻ that he would find a way. Allah ﷻ had never ever let me down, He loves it when we call upon Him in need.

Dad was distressed, I held his hand and thanked him for being a wonderful Dad and I talked to him about death. I said if he wanted to stay and try and fight it, that’s ok and if he wanted to let go, that’s okay too, as Allah has prepared a beautiful place away from the pain and suffering of the world, where we can all be together and that all he had to do was believe – in one God and His Prophet’s and I named Moses and Jesus and citing Prophet Muhammad ﷺ as the last and final messenger.  Dad had on an oxygen mask and was in and out of consciousness, so Allah put in my heart to say ‘You believe Dad don’t you?’, thus he could affirm in his heart what I was saying. I repeatedly recited shahada in English and Arabic and Dad had settled and looked at peace. After about fifteen minutes the doctors confirmed his passing.

So Dad died, I was left feeling elated instead of sad, which shocked me, but in my heart I had an overwhelming feeling Dad died with Imaan. I prayed rakat after rakat asking for signs, so I could know what to do next. Could I pray for him? Could he have a janazah?  Etc. etc.  Then the signs came.

Firstly the hospital said he’d need a post mortem which I was unhappy about.  Alhamdulillah the Coroner overruled them and Dad was not put through this experience.

The family wanted Dad cremated in Manchester (like his own parents) but when we found his will, he hadn’t specified a preference, so I was able to request a burial being the legal next of kin.

An insightful and wise sister (may Allah ﷻ reward her) suggested I should have Dad buried in Dewsbury, where I live. In the Muslim section. It sounds obvious, but imagine the barriers for a quietly spoken lone female to go against the grain and suggest such a thing to Dad’s family, all non-Muslim. Remarkably and only through the will and Mercy of Allah ﷻ, they agreed.  Bearing in mind I myself had no proof of Dad taking an audible shahada, just a strong positive feeling – but I could see Allah ﷻ was removing obstacles and making the impossible unfold before me, answering my istikharah.

So alhamdulillah Dad had janazah and is buried as a Muslim. Without ever having fasted or prayed and it is the most humbling experience to feel that this is a Mercy to me, removing that eternal worry about my Dad’s akhirah.

But the story doesn’t end there.

A few weeks later, my husband when to tend to Dad’s grave. To the immediate right of Dad’s grave were several mourners, upon asking, he was told that the notable luminary the Respected Hafiz Sahib Patel had been buried there. Not logical as their janazah’s had been 6 weeks apart and the plots in front, to the side and even behind had been filled. So, to me, that was my proof of Allah ﷻ’s acceptance.

Although my Dad did not have the years of dedicated service to Islam, the years’ worth of inspiring others so wonderfully, and the other tremendous virtuous act’s, the two are immediate neighbours in their resting places. I have hope Dad died sinless (as a new Muslim). Please make dua both, Hafiz Sahib and my Dad, enter Jannatul firdous without reckoning. Ameen.

Please can I ask a small favour to anyone visiting Hafez Sahib’s graveside, please also say a prayer for my Dad, Michael, and pray Allah ﷻ guides all our loved ones to Islam and keeps us on the straight path. Ameen thumma ameen. Revert sister (Dewsbury)

Allah ﷻ says in His glorious Qur’aan;

And Allah ﷻ invites to the Home of Peace (i.e. Paradise- A place free from sorrow, calamities, losses or troubles) and guides whom He wills to a straight path.

10:25

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Hafiz Patel Sahib

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

…But give good tidings to the patient, who, when disaster strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to Allah and indeed to Him we will return.

(2:155/6)

Assalaamualaykum and peace be upon you!

On Thursday 18th February 2016 (9thJamadil Oola 1437), Allah ﷻ looked down at His garden on earth, picked one of His prettiest flower and took its soul away. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’oon.

For those of you who may not have heard, on this day Hafiz Muhammad Ahmad Patel sahib became dearer to Allah ﷻ. He was a man completely devoted to Allah ﷻ, who spent his life inviting people towards Islam. He was the leader of Tableegh and Allah ﷻ took great work from him for His cause.

The reader may wonder, what possible connection could a blogger have to such a great personality like Hafiz sahib? In truth we had no such connection. We had never met nor corresponded in anyway.

But for as long as I remember, this was a man about whom no one ever spoke ill of. Why? Because Hafiz sahib was one of rare jewels on earth who dedicated his entire life to Allah ﷻ. He was a man who touched the hearts of many and inspired them to follow the path of Islam and live by its rulings.

How accepted must Hafiz sahib be in the sight of Allah ﷻ, for his life was lived in accordance to the ayah:

“And who is better in speech than one who invites to Allah and does righteousness and says, “Indeed, I am of the Muslims.”

(41:33)

Subhanallah! Words cannot do justice in describing him. The more I read about this man and the more I hear about him, the more I find myself thinking; he was a man who strived in the path of Islam, walked the footsteps of Rasulullah ﷺ and undoubtedly gained the pleasure of Allah ﷻ. Surely, he attained success in both the worlds. And astagfirullah! Then there are people such as myself.

We tend to think to ourselves that whatever we have done to bring people closer to Allah ﷻ is enough and that we have played our parts well. However, just one glance into the life of Hafiz sahib will tell us that we have not done even an atoms worth in comparison.

Such was his worry for the people that the beginning of his life in the UK was spent in knocking on doors and calling people for Salaah. He would walk to the houses in the cold snowy weather and call them towards the masjid.

How many of us can say that we have encouraged at least one person close to us to read Salaah? If you are one of those rare people, then May Allah ﷻ bless you. Ameen. But if you’re not, then maybe it’s time we do something to change that. Hafiz sahibs worry and concern should make us take a look at our lives. For most of us, our concern extends only towards ourselves. But the thought of a person being far from the path of Allah ﷻ was a burden for Hafiz sahib and he made it his primary concern to see to it that people came close to Allah ﷻ.

Wherever Hafiz sahib went, he spent the time in making a difference in people’s lives and undeniably he always left people in awe. He dedicated his life to serving the religion, attending to the creation and spreading the words of Allah ﷻ and His messenger ﷺ. I am sure wherever he went, Hafiz sahib left a seed of hope for Allah’s mercy in the persons heart.

Those who knew him will definitely feel a void in their lives. without a doubt for them it will be as if they have lost their own parent. But they should take consolation in the reminder that Hafiz sahib is in a better place. Whilst we remain in this deceitful world where each person selfishly tries their best to outdo the other, Hafiz sahib is most likely residing amongst the pious and beloved to Allah ﷻ in Jannah.

Back to the question; what possible connection can a blogger have with Hafiz sahib? Though in reality Hafiz sahib did not know me, I still feel I have a connection to him. Through the eyes of people whose hearts he touched, I have come to realize that my work in this world is unfinished. He left behind a great legacy and he will forever remain a role model in my life. A reminder to exceed and excel in practicing, propagating and preaching the religion of Allah ﷻ. My bond with Hafiz sahib is not a personal one but spiritual one.

As I laid my eyes to rest last night, my last thought was; whilst I remain in this world as a stranger, Hafiz sahib most likely sitting amongst the company of the angels and the pious enjoying his life in paradise.

As Allah ﷻ says in His glorious Quran;

For them who have done good is the best (reward) and extra. No darkness will cover their faces, nor humiliation. Those are the companions of paradise; they will abide therein eternally.

(10:26)

I pray that Allah ﷻ smiles upon the hearts of those who feel Hafiz sahib’s void, gives them patience and keep them steadfast on Islam and through His mercy, May Allah ﷻ accept Hafiz sahib’s sacrifices and grant him an everlasting high place in Firdaws. Ameen.

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and may we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

The Wedding Speech

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

This summer, August 2015, I (The Katibah) attended a wedding celebration, which in my experience was like no other I had ever been to before. You may be wondering; what could be so different about it? It most likely was like any other Asian wedding I had been to before. The usual extravagance, the over-the-top dressed women, the inter-mingling of men and women, and each person trying to outdo the other. But no! This was different.

Yes, there was a fair share of (in my opinion) over-the-top dressed women. Nevertheless, it was fine. Why? Because there was no inter-mingling! And the best part about it? I did not have to keep my veil on! Which usually I do have to because there’s always that one person in your family who doesn’t understand the word “segregated” and yes, there was a stage. But it was nice and simple, and how could I forget to mention; the groom did not come into the hall with his friends to sit with his bride. (Before you start thinking “Wow! Really?!” He came to see her after the nikaah.)

So, how does the entirety of all this still make the wedding different? There was everyone sitting around the tables, waiting for their food. Instead of announcing, “The food is now ready to be served”, the host announced there would be a little “program” before the food is served. Unusual right?! You do not have “programmes” at weddings. It is a time to socialise and check the “eligible girls” out. A time to take pictures, show your face, and most importantly, be a critic on the food.

However, this was different and I loved it! How thoughtful of the hosts! Not only did they invite us. They gave all the guests a chance to be a part of a very special and blessed gathering, Alhumdulillah!

First, came the Qiraat (Recitation of the Qur’an) and then came the wedding speech. Subhanallah! What a wedding speech it was! Now you are probably thinking, it’s just a wedding speech! Probably had the usual embarrassing the bride a little, telling the new brother-in-law to look after her and cracking a couple of jokes.

Again, No! The brother of the bride took his time out to write a speech, which was a great reminder for the person who truly listened. This speech is what I would like to share with you today.

The wedding speech by Usama Saleh

(Student of Jamiatul-Ilm Wal-Huda, Blackburn)

إِنَّ الْحَمْدَ لِلَّهِ نَحْمَدُهُ وَنَسْتَعِينُهُ ونستغفره ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا ومن سيئات أعمالنا مَنْ يَهْدِهِ اللَّهُ فَلَا مُضِلَّ لَهُ وَمَنْ يُضْلِلْ فَلَا هَادِيَ لَهُ وَأَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ، أما بعد.

قال الله عز وجل،

أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم، بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

يا أيها الناس اتقوا ربكم الذي خلقكم من نفس واحدة وخلق منها زوجها وبث منهما رجالا كثيراً ونساءً، واتقوا اللهَ الذي تسآءلون به والأرحام. إن الله كان عليكم رقيبا.

 (٤:١)

وقال تعالى

أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم، بسم الله الرحمن الحيم

يا ايها الذين ءامنوا اتقوا الله حق تقاته ولا تموتن إلا وأنتم مسلمون.

(٣:١٠٢) 

وقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم،

النِّكَاحُ مِنْ سُنَّتِي فَمَنْ لَمْ يَعْمَلْ بِسُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي

(رواه ابن ماجه)

First and foremost, all praise is due to Allah ﷻ, who has united us in this blessed gathering. It is solely out of His mercy and His will that today, we are able to feel this happiness and bliss in our hearts.

It is for this reason that the message of taqwah is instilled in the khutbah of the nikaah ceremony. The prophet ﷺ is reminding us that it is incumbent upon us that we do not forget the rights of that merciful Allah ﷻ who continues to shower upon us these times of joy and happiness. It is only through Allah’s ﷻ will that we are gathered here today in celebration. So it is only natural, that we express our happiness, in a manner pleasing to Allah ﷻ.

It is in our nature, as humans, that once we reach a certain age, both the male and female desires to spend the rest of their lives in the company of a spouse. Male in the company of a female and female in the company of a male.

The prophet ﷺ has said,

النِّكَاحُ مِنْ سُنَّتِي فَمَنْ لَمْ يَعْمَلْ بِسُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي

‘Marriage is a part of my Sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah is not a part of me.’

(رواه ابن ماجه)

By mentioning this, nikaah has now become worship. Subhanallah! How great, how merciful, and how just is Allah ﷻ, that by fulfilling a natural urge and necessity, if done in accordance to the Shariah, our lives can be spent in gaining reward.

Here, two things need to be taken into consideration:

  • The rights of Allah.(تقوى)
  • The rights of the spouse, the in-laws, the children and the family (حسن الخلق)

So whom do we look towards for inspiration? Whose example do we take? Who was the most god-fearing? Who had the best of character?

Allah ﷻ says,

لقد كان لكم في رسول الله أسوةٌ حسنةٌ لمن كان يرجوا اللهَ واليوم الآخِر وذكر الله كثيرا

‘Indeed, in the Messenger of Allah you have an excellent example to follow, for him who hopes for (the meeting with) Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah much.’

(٣٣:٢١)

Hence, through His Qur’an, Allah ﷻ has instructed us we take our beloved Prophet ﷺ as an example and no one else.

The prophet ﷺ has said regarding himself,

أَمَا وَاللَّهِ إِنِّي لأَتْقَاكُمْ لِلَّهِ وَأَخْشَاكُمْ لَهُ

‘By Allah, I am the most God conscious amongst you and I fear Him most amongst you.’

 (رواه مسلم)

Allah states regarding the prophet’s ﷺ character;

وإنك لعلى خلق عظيم

And indeed, you are of a great moral character.

(٦٨:٤)

Ibn Qayyum (RA) has said,

‘The prophet had both taqwah and good character; this was because taqwah is what fixes that which is between a slave and his Lord, and good character is that which fixes what is between a person and Allah’s creation. Hence, taqwah in Allah results in His love, and good character calls people towards loving him.’

So how was the prophet ﷺ with his wives? What advice did he give in regards to a successful marriage? How did he behave with his children?

The prophet ﷺ has said, 

أكمل المؤمنين إيمانا أحسنهم خُلقا، وخياركم خياركم لنسائهم

‘The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best behavior, and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.

 (رواه ترمذي)

Hence, we learn that the believing men should be kind towards their wives and gain their love.

The manner in which the prophet ﷺ lived with his wives was of good character and cordial nature. He used to invite the young girls from the Ansaar over, so that Aishah (RA) could play with them. Whenever she wanted to do something for which there was no prohibition, the prophet ﷺ would partake with her. He ﷺ would drink from the same cup as his wife and would place his blessed mouth on the same place as his wife. The prophet ﷺ used to recite the Qur’an whilst his head was resting on her thigh and they also raced each other twice whilst on a journey.

Aishah (RA) narrates,

The Ethiopians were in the masjid playing, so he said to me, ‘Oh Humayra! Would you like to look at them?’ So, I said, ‘Yes’. So he stood by the door and he placed my chin on his shoulders and I leaned my face on his cheeks…’

(Narrated in Nasa’ee)

In the narration above the prophet ﷺ called Aishah (RA) by another name – Humayra. On another occasion he ﷺ called her Aish’. This is a very effective way of increasing the feelings of fondness and compassion between a married couple. In our times, this is known as pet names such as ‘sweetheart’ or ‘honey’ etc.

We should create an atmosphere of fun and happiness during the time of celebrations by having activities that allow the family to relax. However, we need to be bear in mind that our enjoyments are in accordance to the boundaries of Shari’ah.

The prophet ﷺ has said,

إِنَّكَ لَنْ تُنْفِقَ نَفَقَةً تَبْتَغِي بِهَا وَجْهَ اللَّهِ إِلَّا أُجِرْتَ عَلَيْهَا حَتَّى مَا تَجْعَلُ فِي فَمِ امْرَأَتِكَ

‘You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake even if it were a morsel which you put in your wife’s mouth.’

 (رواه بخاري)

A believer is rewarded for feeding his wife. He is rewarded for smiling. When he walks into the house, he should walk in with a smile and he should say salaam.

We should make it an effort to pay close attention to the special traits of our spouse.

Aishah (RA) narrated that the prophet ﷺ said to her;

إِنِّي لأَعْرِفُ غَضَبَكِ وَرِضَاكِ “. قَالَتْ قُلْتُ وَكَيْفَ تَعْرِفُ ذَاكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ ” إِنَّكِ إِذَا كُنْتِ رَاضِيَةً قُلْتِ بَلَى وَرَبِّ مُحَمَّدٍ. وَإِذَا كُنْتِ سَاخِطَةً قُلْتِ لاَ وَرَبِّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ “. قَالَتْ قُلْتُ أَجَلْ لَسْتُ أُهَاجِرُ إِلاَّ اسْمَكَ

“I know whether you are angry or pleased.” I said, “How do you know that, Oh Messenger of Allah ?” He said, “When you are pleased, you say, “Yes, by the Lord of Muhammad ,’ but when you are angry, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Ibrahim!'” I said, “Yes, I do not leave, except your name.”

 (رواه بخاري)

Once both spouses are aware of each other’s specific traits, especially that which makes the other happy or unhappy – then they have, Insha Allah, established the foundation for a fruitful marriage.

These are a few points the husband must take into consideration.

As for the women, Allah ﷻ describes the righteous ones as,

فالصالحاتُ قانتاتٌ حافظاتٌ للغيب

So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence. 

(٤:٣٤)

The commentators of the Qur’an have written that here قانتاتٌ means obedient to Allah. It is possible that it can also mean obedient to their husbands, but the stronger opinion is obedient to Allah.

The prophet ﷺ states further;

إذا صلت المرأة خمسها، وصامت شهرها، وحصَّنت فرجها، وأطاعت بعلها، دخلت من أيِّ أبوب الجنة شاءت

‘If a woman observes her prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, is obedient to her husband, she will be allowed to enter Jannah through whichever door she desires.’

(صحيح الترغيب)

In this Hadith, we see the prophet ﷺ encouraging the wife to fulfill both the rights of Allah ﷻ and the rights of the people, i.e. Taqwah and Good Character.

How great is the reward for a woman who reads her salaah, keeps her fasts, protects her honour and obeys her husband. Just four things and she can enter into paradise through any door of her choice.

On another occasion, the prophet ﷺ described the best of women. He said, 

قِيلَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَىُّ النِّسَاءِ خَيْرٌ قَالَ: الَّتِي تَسُرُّهُ إِذَا نَظَرَ وَتُطِيعُهُ إِذَا أَمَرَ وَلاَ تُخَالِفُهُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَمَالِهَا بِمَا يَكْرَهُ

“It was said to the Messenger of Allah : ‘Which woman is best?’ He said, ‘The one who makes him happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself nor her wealth.

(سنن النسائي)

In another place, he ﷺ said;

خير نساءكم الوَدود الوَلود المواتية المواسية إذا اتَّقين الله

‘The best of your women are those who are extremely affectionate, very fertile, those women who are gentle and comforting, if they fear Allah .’

(سنن البيهقي)

The wife should show her affection to her husband through her speech, her appearance, her actions and her character. She should want to have children. She should not be harsh and rigid. Rather she should be gentle and soft. She should not be arrogant. Rather she should listen. She should want to console and comfort her husband. She should stand by his side and aid him upon good.

As Khadija (RA) did with the prophet ﷺ after he received revelation for the first time. The prophet ﷺ rushed back home, his heart trembling and shivering. He ﷺ said to her;

زَمِّلُونِي زَمِّلُونِي، لقد خشيت على نفسي

Cover me! Cover me! I fear for myself.

 (رواه بخاري)

She replied,

وَاللَّهِ مَا يُخْزِيكَ اللَّهُ أَبَدًا، إِنَّكَ لَتَصِلُ الرَّحِمَ، وَتَحْمِلُ الْكَلَّ، وَتَكْسِبُ الْمَعْدُومَ، وَتَقْرِي الضَّيْفَ، وَتُعِينُ عَلَى نَوَائِبِ الْحَقِّ

By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you. You keep good relations with your kith and kin, help the poor and the destitute, serve your guests generously and assist the deserving calamity-afflicted ones.

(رواه بخاري)

Notice how in such a time of distress Khadija (RA) consoled the prophet ﷺ. She stood by his side and gave him hope. She listed his good qualities and comforted him. She did not shout at him and leave him be.

This is exactly how the wife should behave towards the husband. If one day, her husband comes home having lost his job, she should not start shouting at him and tell him that he is of no use. Instead, she should take the example of Khadija (RA) and stand by him in his time of hardship.

Going back to Hadith, it ends with إذا اتَّقين الله.

Like everything, these qualities of being affectionate, wanting children, being gentle and comforting are only beneficial if the wife fears Allah ﷻ. If she used these qualities only in search of the world, then it was to no avail. However, if she uses them in search of the pleasure of Allah ﷻ, then she will be rewarded accordingly.

Amongst the things both the husband and wife need to take into consideration is that, they must remember that not everyone is perfect. Therefore, they should overlook the mistakes made by each other. The couple should also keep in mind that disputes will occur. One must hasten in reconciling marital disputes, even if it means one compromises for the other. Otherwise, it will fester and leave an ill feeling in the heart and when this happens, it will be very difficult to rectify the situation.

Whenever the wives of the prophet ﷺ would make a mistake or do something wrong, he ﷺ would be the first to rectify things.

It is very important to know, initially, if either of the spouse finds it difficult to be with his/her partner, then before making any rash decisions, take into consideration the verse,

عسى أن تكرهوا شيأً وهو خير لكم

It may be that you dislike a thing, however, if it good for you.

 (٢:٢١٦)

My teacher, May Allah ﷻ reward him, mentioned a story regarding a person who was newly-wed. He was not comfortable with his spouse. He felt this marriage was not right for him and was considering a divorce. However, he came across the ayah mentioned above and he thought, maybe Allah ﷻ has something good for me in this. Therefore, he kept her in his marriage.

He later said regarding his marriage,

“Alhumdulillah, through the blessings of that one ayah which I put my trust in, Allah ﷻ gave me Ulama’ and Huffaz as children from this woman and made her beloved to me.”

Therefore, we should always be happy with whatever decisions Allah ﷻ makes in regards to us.

I would like to finish now with the key to a happy marriage, full of love and affection.

Allah ﷻ says in the Quran,

إن الذين ءامنوا وعملوا الصالحت سيجعل لهم الرحمن ودا

Verily, those who believe and do good deeds, Allah will place love amongst them.

 (١٩:٩٦)

It is not we, who have the ability to control the emotions of the heart. It is all under the control of Allah ﷻ. If we please him, and fulfill the rights he holds over us, then he will keep us pleased. It was on this very foundation of Imaan and good deeds that Allah united the warring tribes of Aws and Khazrah from Madinah Munawwarah to form the Ansaar as we know of them today.

Allah says,

لو أنفقت ما في الأرض جميعا ما ألفت بين قلوبهم، ولكن اللهَ ألف بينهم

If you spent all the contents of the earth, you would not have been able to unite them, however, it was Allah that united them.

(٨:٦٣)

Due to their faith, Allah ﷻ solved whatever problems the people had and united them. He ﷻ gave them a newfound hope and pleasure in their daily lives. If Allah ﷻ united the hearts of people who had hatred and enmity between them, He ﷻ can most definitely unite the hearts of the husband and wife.

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and May we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Safar; The month of misfortunes?!

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Amongst the twelve months of the Islamic calendar, the month of Safar was regarded as a bad omen by the Arabs in the times of Jahiliyah (predated-Islam). No marriage took place during this month and no important task was performed.

The Arabs were also as superstitious as anyone before Islam. They would not undertake a journey or partake in any important activity before “consulting” whether it was safe or not; they would look for this “safety” through looking at birds or casting lots. If the bird flew right to left in front of them, then this was regarded as a bad omen; but flight in the opposite direction was regarded as a good omen. In the same way if during their journey a deer crossed their path, going right to left, then the journey was immediately cancelled.

Any disease was contagious within itself. If the cause of a murder was not found or there was no trace of the murderer, then they believed that an owl would come out of the victim’s skull and plead for his revenge.

The consultation of soothsayers and fortune-tellers was also very common amongst the Arabs. They would predict the future by consulting jinn’s and by looking at the position of the stars in the sky.

Their superstitions were as old and as baseless as darkness itself. So intense was the fear of the unknown that they placed their beliefs in the creation rather than the creator of the creation, Allah ﷻ.

However, such dark and deeply imbedded beliefs were completely uprooted by the entrance of Islam. Allah ﷻ cast a light of guidance over the Arabs through Rasulullah ﷺ and such practices were banished over time.

Rasulullah ﷺ said about Safar;

No adwaa [transmission of infectious disease without the permission of Allah], no tiyarah [superstitious belief in bird omens], no haamah [refers to a ignorant Arab tradition described variously as: a worm that infests the grave of a murder victim until he is avenged; an owl; or the bones of a dead person turned into a bird that could fly], and no Safar [the month of Safar was regarded as “unlucky” in the Jahiliyah]. But flee from a leper as you would flee from a lion.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

[Translators notes are in square brackets].

In another Hadeeth Jabir (rd) Narrates;

I have heard the Prophet ﷺ saying; the descending of illness and evil superstition befalling in the month of Safar is untrue.” (Muslim)

Through these hadeeth Rasulullah ﷺ clarified the ignorant notion that disease could be contagious within itself.

Such fancy thinking cannot hide the fact that belief in the illogical is a direct result of lack of belief in the All Knowledgeable, All-Powerful Allah ﷻ, who has full control over His vast creation.

Allah ﷻ says in Surah An’aam, Ayah 59;

And with Him are the keys of the unseen; none knows them except Him. And He knows what is on the land and in the sea. Not a leaf falls but that He knows it. And no grain is there within the darkness of the earth and no moist or dry [thing] but that it is [written] in a clear record.

Nevertheless at the same time, Rasulullah ﷺ also advised his ummah to take precaution. As stated in the hadeeth mentioned above; “But flee from a leper as you would flee from a lion”. We learn that though nothing happens without the will and command of Allah ﷻ, there are certain diseases that can be contagious and can spread.

But as narrated by Anas bin Malik rd:

A man said, “O Messenger of Allah ﷺ, should I tie my camel and trust in Allah, or should I untie her and trust in Allah?” The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Tie her and trust in Allah ﷻ.” (At-Tirmidhi)

Through the hadeeth, he ﷺ instructed us to take precaution but put our faith in Allah ﷻ.

There is no doubt that a believer faces the same uncertainties in life as a non-believer; however he faces them with the help of Allah ﷻ.

When a believer is about to embark on a journey, he leaves his home with the prayer:

بسم اللە توكلت على اللە و لا حول و لا قوة الا باللە

In the Name of Allah ﷻ; I have placed my trust in Allah ﷻ; there is no might and no power except by Allah ﷻ. (Abu Dawood, At-Tirmidhi)

Then he reads his prayer upon embarking on a journey:

سبحان الذي سخر لنا هذا و ما كنا لە مقرنين و انا الى ربنا لمنقلبون

Glory to Him who has brought this [vehicle] under our control; though we were unable to control it [ourselves]; and indeed, to Our Lord we will surely return. (Muslim)

When about to partake in some activity; the believer says “Insha Allah” and when uncertain he seeks guidance from Allah ﷻ through the prayer of Istikharah, in which he says:

(Translation) O Allah, I seek Your guidance [in making a choice] by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allah, if in Your knowledge, this matter — is good for me in my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge it is bad for me and for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, then turn me away from it, [and turn it away from me], and ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.” (Al-Bukhari)

Through prayer the believer supplicates to Allah ﷻ; knowing that he is not the one in control and putting his full trust in the Almighty Allah ﷻ. Each supplication, if reflected upon, shows how uncertain life is and in whose control all things are.

Moreover, we learn that time; months or the actions of other creations have no impact on a person’s life or on the will of Allah ﷻ.

Allah ﷻ says in Surah Tawbah, Ayah 36:

Indeed, the number of months (in a year) with Allah ﷻ is twelve [lunar] months in the register of Allah ﷻ [from] the day He created the heavens and the earth; of these, four are sacred. That is the correct religion, so do not wrong yourselves during them…

Hence the month of Safar as specified is only one of the months by Allah ﷻ. No good or evil can come from it without His command and a human is not destined to be troubled by omens and superstitions. They are the path towards destruction of one’s faith and only the light of Imaan and trust in Allah ﷻ can save a person from such disbelief.

We conclude with the supplication taught to us by Rasulullah ﷺ to safeguard ourselves against superstitions.

اللهم لا طير الا طيرك و لا خير الا خيرك و لا الە غيرك

“Oh Allah there is no portent other than Your portent, no goodness other than Your goodness, and no God other than You.” (Musnad Ahmad)

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and May we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Pray. Believe. Wait.

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Often when a person is in distress, he loses hope in Allah ﷻ. He believes the doors to freedom are closed on him and he has no way out of the situation at hand. He will extend his hands towards the people and turn to Allah ﷻ as a last and hopeless resort. But the situation for a believing man or a believing woman should be different.

In a Hadeeth narrated by Ibn ‘Umar RA, Rasulullah ﷺ once related a story to the Sahaba RA. He ﷺ said, “Three persons of a people before you, were on a journey when they were overtaken by a storm and therefore they took shelter in a cave. A rock slipped down from the mountain and blocked the exit of the cave. One of them said: “The only way for escape left is to beseech Allah ﷻ in the name of some virtuous deed.” Thereupon one of them supplicated, “O Allah! My parents were very old; I used to offer them their nightly drink of milk before my children and the other members of the family. One day I went astray far away in search of green trees and could return only after my parent had gone to sleep. When I had milked the animals and brought their nightly drink to them, they were fast asleep, but I did not like to disturb them, nor would I give any part of the milk to my children and other members of the family till after my parents had their drink. Thus, with the vessel in hand, I awaited their awakening till the flush of dawn, while the children cried out of hunger at my feet. When they woke up, they had their drink. O Allah! If You regard that I did it for Your sake, then please remove this rock so that we may see the sky.’ Thereupon, the rock moved a little but not enough to let them pass out.

Then the second man supplicated: “O Allah, I had a cousin whom I loved more passionately than anyone loves a woman. I tried to seduce her but she would have none of me. Until in a season of great hardship due to a famine, she approached me (for help) and I gave her one hundred and twenty Dinars on condition that she would have intercourse with me. She agreed. When we got together and I was just going to have intercourse with her, she pleaded: ‘Fear Allah ﷻ and do not break the seal unlawfully’; whereupon I moved away from her, despite the fact that I desired her most passionately; and I let her keep the money I had given her. O Allah, if I did this seeking only your pleasure, then remove the distress in which we find ourselves.” Again the rock moved a little but not enough to let them pass out.

Then the third supplicated: “O Allah!, I hired some labourers and paid them their dues, but one of them left leaving behind what was due to him. I invested it in business and the business prospered greatly.” After a time, the labourer came back, and said: ‘O servant of Allah! Hand over to me my wages.’ I said to him: ‘All that you see is yours – camels, cattle, goats and slaves.’ He said: ‘Don’t play joke with me, O servant of Allah.’ I assured him: ‘I am not joking.’ So he took all of it, sparing nothing. O Allah, if I did this seeking only your pleasure, then relieve us of our distress.”

The rock then moved away, and all the three came out of the cave safe and sound.

(Saheeh al Bukhari).

The greatest lesson taught in this Hadeeth is that Allah ﷻ has power over all things. He afflicts his servants with hardship in good times and in bad times, so that He may test their patience and gratefulness; and so that He may show His servants, His signs and His powers. Why? Because we humans often need signs for the renewal of our faith, to turn back to Allah ﷻ.

In the Qur’aan-e-Kareem, Allah ﷻ says:

And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad ﷺ], concerning Me – indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided. (2:186)

Similarly in a Hadeeth Rasulullah ﷺ said to Ibn Abbas RA;

‘When you ask, ask Allah ﷻ and when you need help, seek help from Allah ﷻ.’

(Narrated in Ahmad, Tirmidhi and Ibn Abid-dunya)

From the Quraanic ayah we come to know that Allah ﷻ is ever-near and responsive. He hears the call of the caller wherever they maybe and answers it as and when he wills. Our Prayers may be invisible to us but through them, Allah ﷻ turns hardship into ease, impossible into possible and uncertainty into certainty. Thus the Second lesson we learn is in times of hardship and adversity a believer should turn to Allah ﷻ and ask from Him alone.

Moreover, this Hadith proves that doing good deeds is a way of simplifying matters, warding off harm and relieving hardships. So we should do our utmost best in doing as many good deeds as possible because this Hadeeth teaches that when a believer is in trouble, He should call upon Allah ﷻ, turn to Him and ask Him by virtue of his good deeds. These good deeds could be anything such as believing in the oneness of Allah ﷻ and His messenger ﷺ.

Through such du’aas Allah ﷻ out of His kindness and mercy, answers the supplication of the troubled, shows sympathy to His believing servants, and responds to their pleas.

Furthermore, this hadeeth is clear proof of the ayah;

And your Lord says, “Call upon Me, I will respond to you… (40:60)

Then further on Allah ﷻ says:

Is not He (better than your gods) Who responds to the distressed one, when he calls Him, and Who removes the evil… (27:62)

Those three men were troubled as a great hardship had befallen them. They supplicated to Allah ﷻ by virtue of their good deeds and He responded to their prayers and removed their hardship.

Lastly, we learn from the Hadith that being dutiful to one’s parents, abstaining from committing adultery, warning others against it, returning one’s trust and being sincere in actions is virtuous and a way of removing harm and hardship.

The Prophet ﷺ narrated this story because of the importance of it to his nation to benefit from it and learn good deeds from those who were before them.

To conclude, all we need to remember from everything we have learnt is that we, only need to ask. It is through Allah’s ﷻ power alone that we are blessed. But in order to be blessed we must Pray, believe and wait.

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and May we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Disclaimer: I have spent time researching this Hadeeth and parts of it are from other websites which I have used and changed according to my understanding and put altogether. However, I can’t remember all the sites. I have however, had it checked by a person of more knowledge than me. Any mistake is completely of my own doing and the misleading of shaytaan, Allah ﷻ forbid.

Resources used:

http://quran.com/

http://www.tafseer-raheemi.com/what-is-waseela-and-tawassul-is-it-allowed/

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