Education and Children in Islam

All praise is due to Allah SWT, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Ninety-three years after Hijrah, the same year that Anas bin Malik rd passed away. A woman in Madinah Munawwarah named Aaliyah bint Shareek gave birth to a baby boy named Malik ibn Anas ibn Malik ibn Abi Amir. This baby like many of his family before him would have bought with him many hopes and dreams of manners and knowledge.

His grandfather Malik ibn Abi Amir RA moved to Madinah Munawwarah from Yemen during the caliphate of Umar bin Khattab RD and was a student of the companions of the Prophet ﷺ. He studied and served with the Khulafa-e-Rashideen and his children and their children all grew up to be scholars of Islam.

However, little Malik growing up was not very religious. He used to spend most of his time playing with pigeons. His ambition was to become a musician and his mother would constantly try to talk him out of it. She would habitually make him wear a turban and would tell him to go and study knowledge. She would tell him to go to Rabee’a, who was the prominent scholar of the time and would tell him to learn his Abad before his Ilm.

Hence, Malik sat with Rabee’a for two years to please his mother but did not benefit from him. He still wanted to pursue his career in the music industry. So even after two years, he did not dedicate himself to knowledge. In a un-scholar like manner, he used to wear earrings. He would practice his singing and as before, he spent a lot of time playing with his pigeons.

One day, his father asked him and his brother An-Nadr a question. His brother answered correctly but Malik made a mistake. In frustration, his father told him that his pigeons have made him too busy to seek knowledge. He got very angry at this remark and decided to dedicate himself to knowledge to prove his father wrong.

Donning on Islamic attire, Malik went to spend seven years with Abdullah ibn Yazid ibn Hurmus, a blind prominent scholar who had been through a lot of hardship and did not mix with anyone else during this time. Then he spent another five years with him and some other scholars.

Today, we know this Malik as Imam Malik RA. The author of the Muwwata-e-Imam Malik, one of the greatest hadith books compiled.

Now before I expand on this story, let me set another scene for you.

This year, May 2018. So many students will have taken their exams and now is the waiting game. The nervous anticipation. The hopes of passing. The prayers to succeed. Many will be eagerly awaiting. Some will be asking the question, have I passed. Did I do enough to succeed? However, at the same, some will be having nervous breakdowns whilst others will be completely relaxed.

This scene is so similar to another that we are yet to experience. Yes! I am talking about that event that every living soul will experience on the day of Judgement. However, I am not talking about you in general. No! Our worry and concern are the children of this Ummah who are the inheritors of the prophets of Allah SWT.

At a young age, we allow our children to do as they wish. Our thinking is that these children are young and should live their youth as they wish. Once they grow up, naturally, they will begin to be more inclined towards Islam. We allow them to do as they wish. From dressing them up according to the latest trends; to watching the latest musicals and playing video games in which modesty and mercy have no place. Why? Because we do not want our child to “miss out” and at the end of the day, everything is completely fine because our children go to madrasah anyway.

However, what happens? These children become teenagers, and what do they wish to do? They wish to listen to the latest hits, they want to dress according to the latest trends, they want the latest games, no matter what is in them and Islam has no place in their hearts. Going to learn about Islam is a burden and they only come to Madrasah because we, as Muslim parents, send them.

Years will pass and then? It is the day of Judgement. Along with everyone else, we will be standing on the plains of Reckoning, awaiting our judgement. Our sons or daughters will be standing in front of Allah SWT and Allah SWT will question our children. “Tell me son or daughter of so and so, why did you not act upon the Qur’an and Sunnah, despite being upon Islam?”

Regarding this day, Allah SWT says in the Glorious Qur’an,

On the Day a man will flee from his brother، and his mother and his father، and his wife and his children. Every man, that Day, will have enough to make him careless of others.
(Abasa: 34-37)

In this state on that day, can anyone of us think that if the carelessness has been on our part, will our children refrain from mentioning it?

I am sure, we have heard the words “The mother’s lap is the first Madrasah”, countless times. However, what do these words mean?

By nature, every believing parent worries about his or her child’s Islamic upbringing. There is always a certain degree of anxiousness when it involves getting the child to carry out an Islamic injunction. Moreover, when the child refuses to act upon it, it is always frustrating.

It is from amongst the children’s rights that their parents begin to encourage them towards Islamic injunctions when they reach the age of seven. Nevertheless, it is never easy to start something new with a seven years old child. By this age, children begin to express their own feelings and thoughts and they wish to know the reason behind every action.

This is why when children start school at the age of four; they are taught how to recognise letters and to read. It is easier for them to learn because they are more open-minded and adventurous. In this way, by the age of seven, they are completely independent and can read by themselves.

It has been narrated on the authority of Ibn ‘Umar (rd) that Rasulullah ﷺ said:

Beware! Every one of you is a shepherd and everyone is answerable with regard to his flock. The Caliph is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his subjects (as to how he conducted their affairs). A man is a guardian over the members of his family and shall be questioned about them (as to how he looked after their physical and moral well-being). A woman is a guardian over the household of her husband and his children and shall be questioned about them (as to how she managed the household and brought up the children). A slave is a guardian over the property of his master and shall be questioned about it (as to how he safeguarded his trust). Beware! Every one of you is a guardian and every one of you shall be questioned with regard to his trust. (Sahih Muslim)

Thus, we come back to our point that the mother’s lap is the first madrasah. Why? Because the mother contributes the bigger share and plays the dominant role in the early training and education of her children.

By any or all means necessary, it is up to the mother to save the children by giving them a good Islamic education. Therefore, to ensure that our children lead a successful life according to the standards set by Islam, we as parents should dutifully train and educate them.

Allah SWT says in the glorious Qur’an,

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and fair preaching, and argue with them with that which is best. Truly, your Lord knows best who has strayed from His path, and He knows best those who are guided.
(An-Nahl: 125)

This verse does not only apply to the person calling others towards Islam but us parents too. As parents, it is our duty to guide with wisdom, affection, patience and steadfastness.

In connection to this Allah SWT says:

O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.
(Tahreem: 6)

Commentating on this verse, the interpreters of the Qur’an have said:

“It is an obligation for the Muslim to teach his near family members, and his male and female slaves what Allah has made obligatory for them and what Allah has forbidden for them.”

A Hadith confirms the meaning of this Ayah. It is recorded in Abu Dawood that Rasulullah ﷺ said,

“Order the children to pray when they reach the age of seven and when they reach the age of ten, discipline them (for not performing it).”

Now going back to the story of Imam Malik RA, Look at the way that Allah SWT works. Unbeknown to him, Allah SWT had great plans for little Imam Malik RA. He may not have wanted to pursue the Religion of Allah but Allah SWT made his mother and father a source of guidance towards his Religion.

Especially his mother, who always encouraged him to study with the Scholars and not only did she encourage him but she also guided him to the person who she thought was the most learnt amongst the Scholars of Madinah Munawwarah. We can only imagine how much worry and concern she must have had for her child that Allah SWT took away from her, her deepest concern. However, to what extent?! Subhanallah!

The Prophet ﷺ said in the Musnad of Imam Ahmad;

“There will come a time where people will strike the thighs of their camels, travelling the world to seek knowledge. (Meaning people will travel all over the world) and they will not find anyone more knowledgeable than the scholar of Madinah.”

By the consensus of many scholars, this Scholar of Madinah refers to Imam Malik RA.

I am sure many of us here will be able to relate to Imam Malik’s RA story. We have all heard of or come across a youth who have unfortunately gone towards the wrong path.

We live in corrupt times, where every corner that we turn, we see either immorality or disgrace and during this time, we have upon us the burden of bringing up pious children who will, Insha Allah, safeguard the Religion of Allah SWT.

Now you may be thinking, it is so much easier said than done and you would be right in thinking that. It is much harder. Not only have times changed but so has the society. We no longer live in a world where the mother’s place is at home and the father is the sole breadwinner of the family. However, if we did not have the willpower to do so, then we would not have been given this blessing in the first place.

The basis of a good Islamic education and good morals starts at home. He who guides to good deeds is like the doer thereof and he who leads to bad deeds is like the doer thereof.

In essence, if parents bring up their children with a good Islamic foundation and the children act upon it, it will be regarded as Sadaqa-e-Jariyyah. On the contrary, if the parents neglected this duty then it will be regarded as Azaab-e-Jariyyah. Meaning that whatever evil the children do, the parents will get continuous punishment for it after their death.

If we impart upon our children a good Islamic education, on growing up they will act upon within the guidance of Islam and will become a good source of education for others, thus Allah SWT will reward us for all their good actions continuously in the hereafter for their efforts.

Rasulullah ﷺ has said,

“When a person dies, all his deeds come to an end except three: sadaqah jaariyah (ongoing charity, e.g. a waqf or endowment), beneficial knowledge (which he has left behind), or a righteous child who will pray for him.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi)

May Allah SWT accept from us and you. Ameen.

All praise is due to Allah SWT at the beginning and at the end.

thekatibahwrites

Resources used;

http://seekershub.org/blog/2011/03/is-the-hadith-the-scholars-are-the-inheritors-of-the-prophets-authentic-if-so-what-does-it-mean-faraz-rabbani

https://quran.com/

 

 

 

 

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To be accepted by Allah ﷻ

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Subhanallah! I came across this today and had to share. Bought tears to my eyes. May Allah ﷻ accept all of us. Ameen.

HAVE HOPE IN THE MERCY OF ALLAH ﷻ – never stop praying – My Story.

My 67 year old father spent his life as a British non-Muslim. He sadly passed away in January 2016 from Cancer. Alhamdulillah I, his only child, was shown the light of Islam, the Haqq, 12 years ago. Sometime ago, when he was told by medics that nothing further could be done, I felt the huge need to speak to him about deen, praying that Allah ﷻ would open his heart. I had always included my parents in my duas – imagine how hard it is for us reverts to know those who raised and nurtured us are devoid from the peace and tranquillity that Islam instils in us – and that they may be excluded from the wonders we are told await us in Jannah (should we attain it, through Allah ﷻ’s blessings alone).

I asked Allah ﷻ for the courage to approach the topic, aware of dad expressing he didn’t even want to think or talk about death. He was a closed book and very private. I asked Allah ﷻ to give me the appropriate words and remove any impediment from my speech, to help me through good character to show him Islam is not the harsh, oppressive and militant faith as wrongly seen by many non-Muslims.  We talked – he listened openly. I told dad I’ll return back to the conversation when ‘his time comes’ and he agreed. Dad had broadly Christian beliefs although not practising, he believed in One God.

I received a call from the hospital in Manchester some months later saying dad had been admitted and not expected to last the night. It was expected, he’d lost his appetite, was sleeping a lot and in acute pain – also suffering from other undignified issues symptomatic of his illness.

I made 2 rakat and rushed alone to the hospital, praying I was afforded the opportunity to speak to him one last time. Partially for selfish reasons – how could I live with myself thereafter if I had ‘bottled it’ – losing my nerve and final opportunity to invite Dad to become Muslim.

Alhumdulillah I made it and had to ask relatives and doctors for five minutes privacy with him.  I was frightened everyone would think it highly unethical to put pressure on a dying man, but I had to pray and trust in Allah ﷻ that he would find a way. Allah ﷻ had never ever let me down, He loves it when we call upon Him in need.

Dad was distressed, I held his hand and thanked him for being a wonderful Dad and I talked to him about death. I said if he wanted to stay and try and fight it, that’s ok and if he wanted to let go, that’s okay too, as Allah has prepared a beautiful place away from the pain and suffering of the world, where we can all be together and that all he had to do was believe – in one God and His Prophet’s and I named Moses and Jesus and citing Prophet Muhammad ﷺ as the last and final messenger.  Dad had on an oxygen mask and was in and out of consciousness, so Allah put in my heart to say ‘You believe Dad don’t you?’, thus he could affirm in his heart what I was saying. I repeatedly recited shahada in English and Arabic and Dad had settled and looked at peace. After about fifteen minutes the doctors confirmed his passing.

So Dad died, I was left feeling elated instead of sad, which shocked me, but in my heart I had an overwhelming feeling Dad died with Imaan. I prayed rakat after rakat asking for signs, so I could know what to do next. Could I pray for him? Could he have a janazah?  Etc. etc.  Then the signs came.

Firstly the hospital said he’d need a post mortem which I was unhappy about.  Alhamdulillah the Coroner overruled them and Dad was not put through this experience.

The family wanted Dad cremated in Manchester (like his own parents) but when we found his will, he hadn’t specified a preference, so I was able to request a burial being the legal next of kin.

An insightful and wise sister (may Allah ﷻ reward her) suggested I should have Dad buried in Dewsbury, where I live. In the Muslim section. It sounds obvious, but imagine the barriers for a quietly spoken lone female to go against the grain and suggest such a thing to Dad’s family, all non-Muslim. Remarkably and only through the will and Mercy of Allah ﷻ, they agreed.  Bearing in mind I myself had no proof of Dad taking an audible shahada, just a strong positive feeling – but I could see Allah ﷻ was removing obstacles and making the impossible unfold before me, answering my istikharah.

So alhamdulillah Dad had janazah and is buried as a Muslim. Without ever having fasted or prayed and it is the most humbling experience to feel that this is a Mercy to me, removing that eternal worry about my Dad’s akhirah.

But the story doesn’t end there.

A few weeks later, my husband when to tend to Dad’s grave. To the immediate right of Dad’s grave were several mourners, upon asking, he was told that the notable luminary the Respected Hafiz Sahib Patel had been buried there. Not logical as their janazah’s had been 6 weeks apart and the plots in front, to the side and even behind had been filled. So, to me, that was my proof of Allah ﷻ’s acceptance.

Although my Dad did not have the years of dedicated service to Islam, the years’ worth of inspiring others so wonderfully, and the other tremendous virtuous act’s, the two are immediate neighbours in their resting places. I have hope Dad died sinless (as a new Muslim). Please make dua both, Hafiz Sahib and my Dad, enter Jannatul firdous without reckoning. Ameen.

Please can I ask a small favour to anyone visiting Hafez Sahib’s graveside, please also say a prayer for my Dad, Michael, and pray Allah ﷻ guides all our loved ones to Islam and keeps us on the straight path. Ameen thumma ameen. Revert sister (Dewsbury)

Allah ﷻ says in His glorious Qur’aan;

And Allah ﷻ invites to the Home of Peace (i.e. Paradise- A place free from sorrow, calamities, losses or troubles) and guides whom He wills to a straight path.

10:25

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Pray. Believe. Wait.

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Often when a person is in distress, he loses hope in Allah ﷻ. He believes the doors to freedom are closed on him and he has no way out of the situation at hand. He will extend his hands towards the people and turn to Allah ﷻ as a last and hopeless resort. But the situation for a believing man or a believing woman should be different.

In a Hadeeth narrated by Ibn ‘Umar RA, Rasulullah ﷺ once related a story to the Sahaba RA. He ﷺ said, “Three persons of a people before you, were on a journey when they were overtaken by a storm and therefore they took shelter in a cave. A rock slipped down from the mountain and blocked the exit of the cave. One of them said: “The only way for escape left is to beseech Allah ﷻ in the name of some virtuous deed.” Thereupon one of them supplicated, “O Allah! My parents were very old; I used to offer them their nightly drink of milk before my children and the other members of the family. One day I went astray far away in search of green trees and could return only after my parent had gone to sleep. When I had milked the animals and brought their nightly drink to them, they were fast asleep, but I did not like to disturb them, nor would I give any part of the milk to my children and other members of the family till after my parents had their drink. Thus, with the vessel in hand, I awaited their awakening till the flush of dawn, while the children cried out of hunger at my feet. When they woke up, they had their drink. O Allah! If You regard that I did it for Your sake, then please remove this rock so that we may see the sky.’ Thereupon, the rock moved a little but not enough to let them pass out.

Then the second man supplicated: “O Allah, I had a cousin whom I loved more passionately than anyone loves a woman. I tried to seduce her but she would have none of me. Until in a season of great hardship due to a famine, she approached me (for help) and I gave her one hundred and twenty Dinars on condition that she would have intercourse with me. She agreed. When we got together and I was just going to have intercourse with her, she pleaded: ‘Fear Allah ﷻ and do not break the seal unlawfully’; whereupon I moved away from her, despite the fact that I desired her most passionately; and I let her keep the money I had given her. O Allah, if I did this seeking only your pleasure, then remove the distress in which we find ourselves.” Again the rock moved a little but not enough to let them pass out.

Then the third supplicated: “O Allah!, I hired some labourers and paid them their dues, but one of them left leaving behind what was due to him. I invested it in business and the business prospered greatly.” After a time, the labourer came back, and said: ‘O servant of Allah! Hand over to me my wages.’ I said to him: ‘All that you see is yours – camels, cattle, goats and slaves.’ He said: ‘Don’t play joke with me, O servant of Allah.’ I assured him: ‘I am not joking.’ So he took all of it, sparing nothing. O Allah, if I did this seeking only your pleasure, then relieve us of our distress.”

The rock then moved away, and all the three came out of the cave safe and sound.

(Saheeh al Bukhari).

The greatest lesson taught in this Hadeeth is that Allah ﷻ has power over all things. He afflicts his servants with hardship in good times and in bad times, so that He may test their patience and gratefulness; and so that He may show His servants, His signs and His powers. Why? Because we humans often need signs for the renewal of our faith, to turn back to Allah ﷻ.

In the Qur’aan-e-Kareem, Allah ﷻ says:

And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad ﷺ], concerning Me – indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided. (2:186)

Similarly in a Hadeeth Rasulullah ﷺ said to Ibn Abbas RA;

‘When you ask, ask Allah ﷻ and when you need help, seek help from Allah ﷻ.’

(Narrated in Ahmad, Tirmidhi and Ibn Abid-dunya)

From the Quraanic ayah we come to know that Allah ﷻ is ever-near and responsive. He hears the call of the caller wherever they maybe and answers it as and when he wills. Our Prayers may be invisible to us but through them, Allah ﷻ turns hardship into ease, impossible into possible and uncertainty into certainty. Thus the Second lesson we learn is in times of hardship and adversity a believer should turn to Allah ﷻ and ask from Him alone.

Moreover, this Hadith proves that doing good deeds is a way of simplifying matters, warding off harm and relieving hardships. So we should do our utmost best in doing as many good deeds as possible because this Hadeeth teaches that when a believer is in trouble, He should call upon Allah ﷻ, turn to Him and ask Him by virtue of his good deeds. These good deeds could be anything such as believing in the oneness of Allah ﷻ and His messenger ﷺ.

Through such du’aas Allah ﷻ out of His kindness and mercy, answers the supplication of the troubled, shows sympathy to His believing servants, and responds to their pleas.

Furthermore, this hadeeth is clear proof of the ayah;

And your Lord says, “Call upon Me, I will respond to you… (40:60)

Then further on Allah ﷻ says:

Is not He (better than your gods) Who responds to the distressed one, when he calls Him, and Who removes the evil… (27:62)

Those three men were troubled as a great hardship had befallen them. They supplicated to Allah ﷻ by virtue of their good deeds and He responded to their prayers and removed their hardship.

Lastly, we learn from the Hadith that being dutiful to one’s parents, abstaining from committing adultery, warning others against it, returning one’s trust and being sincere in actions is virtuous and a way of removing harm and hardship.

The Prophet ﷺ narrated this story because of the importance of it to his nation to benefit from it and learn good deeds from those who were before them.

To conclude, all we need to remember from everything we have learnt is that we, only need to ask. It is through Allah’s ﷻ power alone that we are blessed. But in order to be blessed we must Pray, believe and wait.

All praise is due to Allah ﷻ at the beginning and at the end.

May you be rewarded for visiting my page and May we all benefit. Ameen.

The Katibah.

Disclaimer: I have spent time researching this Hadeeth and parts of it are from other websites which I have used and changed according to my understanding and put altogether. However, I can’t remember all the sites. I have however, had it checked by a person of more knowledge than me. Any mistake is completely of my own doing and the misleading of shaytaan, Allah ﷻ forbid.

Resources used:

http://quran.com/

http://www.tafseer-raheemi.com/what-is-waseela-and-tawassul-is-it-allowed/

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The people of the past encouraged the sunnah and the people of the present discourage the sunnah. Then they wonder why their prayers are not accepted. :/

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Yet again you reap what you sow!

It greatly saddens me to post this. 😦

Allah the almighty says in the glorious quraan:

“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.” [17:23]

Subhanallah! How beautifully Allah swt honours the parents.  He puts them straight after His worship! Yet how easily we dishonour them. They reach old age and we send them in to care homes.

Then carrying on from the Quraanic verse above, Allah the almighty says: “And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.” [17:23]

We ask Allah swt to show them mercy as they did us, yet we ourselves who they bought up, we show no mercy to them!

How unfortunate we are! How unfortunate we are! 😦

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What is the use of knowledge when it is only applied in the classroom?

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